gratitude check

Your kids ask for things, and sometimes they are things they need, while other times these are things they want. Some things are frivolous, and others are intriguing as you consider what your child values at the moment. Value is not always about money, and kids need to understand the things we value are telling of what is inside our hearts. If I demand something, my heart is filled with selfishness. If I am thoughtful, my values will be carefully considered. And somewhere in the middle are the rest of our thoughts. No matter what we have or don’t, our hearts need to be filled with gratitude when we obtain what we desire. This is a huge lesson to model for our kids. I’m thankful for big things, and I’m thankful for small things. 

There are seasons of life where gratitude seems more fitting, but living a life filled with gratitude and thankfulness will help your kids to realize just what they have, why it has value, and what perspective they should have when they get more. This is far beyond the age-old conversation of “clean your plate; there are children somewhere that would love to have that food.” This is a game-changer in your life. There’s more than one place to start helping your kids live a lifestyle of gratitude.

1.     Expect your child to say thank you to anyone who gives them something, no matter how small.

2.     Help your child make age-appropriate decisions when they want something but already have something similar. Do you really need this? Why is this so valuable to you right now? What will happen if we wait to get this? Who would you like to give your old one to - if we get this today? Before we get this, who will take care of it? How?

3.     Consider a gratitude moment in each day - Maybe just before bed or at the dinner table. Today, I am most thankful for…..

4.     Consider a gratitude journal where you write down a shortlist of things you are thankful for each day. Share it with your kids from time to time. Consider making writing less obvious things. “I’m grateful for a leaky roof; that means we have a roof over our heads.” “I’m thankful for a flat tire; it reminds me that our family has transportation.” “I’m thankful for tempers tantrums because I learn to parent my children through their struggles.”

Today, think about what you value most and talk with your kids about how you make decisions related to value. When we begin to acknowledge value, we begin spending time in the most valuable places. A little gratitude can help you determine your priorities.